No humanity loss and souls from pvp and it would be perfectly fine for everyone.

Oh look! Got invaded 6 times in a row by the same guy. In the same place. Fine, getting attacked once a while is okay but come on, same a**hole that keeps spamming orbs to invade?

Yes, I purposefully disconnect away from invaders
No, I don't have infinite human effigies to waste on not getting invaded nor do I want to waste my time farming them, neither do I want to play offline as I very much like coop and messages

Excuse me for not wanting to deal with laggy reddies who teleport to my back without taking any damage from slashes that clearly hit them

Dark Souls 3 is good at pvp, in this game its just annoying as ****

What scummy game design, not putting a "Play Offline" option in-game and then penalizing players who don't feel like getting invaded in a half-decade old game. I don't even mind the occasional invasion, but I've gotten at least 30 in the last day of playing in Iron Keep, and it happens so fast it's almost entirely unacceptable. If FromSoft puts anything remotely like this in Elden Ring, I hope they lose the rights to all their major series...

what counts as an illegal disconnect

I know disconnecting is scummy, but wouldn't a 24 hour softban make more sense than this convoluted crap? Illegal disconnecters are the least of my concerns in PvP, and usually end with me being relieved that the host wasn't using cheat engine to break all my gear (not to mention that those joyless losers who hack never seem to get banned)

It spawns at the point you appear at the start of the game. The Bone of Order will only spawn after you get banned for a second time. It doesn’t matter how many times you visit the spawn point after a first ban, you won’t receive another Bone of Order. After you get banned for a second time (and have to serve a suspension) the bone will spawn after about 10 hours. The first time you are banned you already have a bone of order, so that is a warning. The second time you get banned, you have to serve a suspension because you haven’t got a bone of order. After the in-game waiting period of about 10 hours another will spawn and you will be able to use it so that you can start multi-playing again.

Where exactly is this supposed to regenerate to? The platform at Betwixt's beginning, or somewhere else? Also, I have the ps3 version of SotFS, since is it possible that it would appear only on ps4 SotFS? I know I've waited for it to appear at the platform and that I'm pretty sure that I've been playing without an "illegal" disconnect for 18 to 20 hrs since using my Bone.. Anyone got any legitimate advice (and no, I don't consider "Git Gud, scrub" to be a legitimate answer)

I mean, if you don't wanna get invaded, play offline. I've been guilty of PURPOSELY disconnecting, but on when the invader is trolling me and hiding or I gotta go to work. I don't coop so I don't think I've been banned even though I've done this a handful of times... so I 'think' it's fine if they're not soft banning after just a few disconnects, and a timer resets those every so 10hrs or so.... and if yor Internet is really that bad, maybe play offline?

I doubt very much this game was designed to pander to belligerent, malicious gamers, who create near unkillable characters, solely for the purpose of griefing others. I have been invaded numerous times by players whose characters appear as nothing more than a near undiscernable wisp, or somehow manage to break all of my equipment without executing any visible form of attack. Recently one of the players I co-op with, after engaging with an invader, found the that some of the merchant NPC's in Majula had disappeared. With so many players using hack type exploits to create characters just to grief those of us who are actually trying to play the game as it was meant to be played, some form of alternative rather than punishment seems more appropriate.