Make a new character, locate Yoel. Send him to Firelink, KILL YOEL. Kill Heysel in Crucifixion Woods. Proceed to Farron Keep, kill Londor Pale Shade by basilisks before killing Abyss Watchers. Proceed until you reach Irithyll. Kill Londor Pale Shade again, who invades after the Silver Knight painting room. Go back to Firelink, follow the stench of Yoel's rotted corpse and pick up the Pale Shade Set. Its not that difficult, don't be lazy...this will take about 4 hours if you are only focused on getting this beautiful, frail outfit. Stop asking for handouts and do it yourself.