ElCazador wrote:Still single here lol... I don't think I'm able to hold a relationship (however good it might be/look) for long, I have various flaws that many find unforgivable like balding, stuttering (it actually started since Summer), talking too much (especially the fields I like to study and others seem to avoid) (Umm... Nerd?) etc.
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Have you made and progress in telling her how you feel?
Depending how far back your hair line has receded, it might be time to bite the bullet and embrace the fully shaved look. Otherwise just get a haircut that works, a close friend of mine has been balding since he turned 17 and after 2 years of trying to deny it, he got it close cropped and looks much better. Also see if you can find a pic of our very own Pierre here on Fextralife; not sure if hes balding but he rocks the close crop very well IMO.>stuttering
Is it caused by anxiety or something else? I remember reading about a treatment that involved a device in your ear that transmitted your voice as you spoke, as it is apparently easier for people with a stammer to talk along to something than to talk off the cuff. Maybe check into that?>talking too much
No such thing. Just make sure you try to talk about the opposite party as much as you do about yourself and you're golden. People will often be grateful for it when they run out of things to talk about. Unless you are both very comfortable with one another eventually there will be a lull in conversation that can become awkward. In these cases being able to prattle on about anything with passion is an asset.
Dude I get into Warhammer 40K, D&D, bonsai, gardening and a host of other things that most of my friends aren't the least bit interested in. Get some confidence and rather than these being flaws, they'll be charming quirks in your personality that make you stand out. Do you know how many people have literally no hobbies beyond going out drinking/partying?
TLDR: None of your 'flaws' seem all that serious. I'd suggest getting a haircut and maybe some speech therapy (is that what it's called?) for those two problems until you're secure in how you look/sound. That confidence will in turn help you be more open about your interests with people, and you'll be surprised who might want to learn about them (I remember explaining to one of my friends how valence electrons and the general structure of atoms related to the periodic table. Weird convo but enjoyable).
PlasticandRage wrote:I've decided to be asexual for a while. After all I've been through this year. Jumping right back on the horse seemed like a good idea at first, but ended up being anything but. It was nice to have a short distraction, but I think I've lost my mind a little bit since everything happened. Looking back on how I handled being with another girl right away, I'm pretty embarrassed about some of the things I did. I think subconsciously I was trying to just pick up where my last relationship had left off, and obviously that didn't work out so well. Just wasn't thinking clearly, I think understandably so. So I've decided to just keep to myself for a while, until I feel I've healed more completely. It's just going to take some time.
On a lighter note, there was a girl who evidently was really really into me secretly all throughout high school. And the night she decided to finally do something about it was at a big house party. I'd been in prime form that night, celebrating something. Can't remember what. 3 am rolled around and I was passed out in the heaviest sense of the word, in a back bedroom, and she came in and tried to wake me up after flirting with me all night. I don't remember any of this, but I'm told that I pushed her off of me, off of the couch entirely, and then rolled over and threw up into her shoes, and went back to sleep. So that went pretty well.
Can't imagine going through what you did man. Sounds really healthy though; taking time out to focus on yourself before looking for companionship again. Nothing more to say really just GJDM, not sure I'd have it in me to do that rather than spiralling out of control.
Make a list of the things that make you happy.
Make a list of the things you do every day.